and a pandemic started. I was doing good at sticking to 230pd range for the past few years till the past 6 months and I gained back to 250pd. I know that I have to control my PCOS. It’s confusing bc there is an overwhelming about of information and misinformation out there. Also there had to be food that I will stick to eating long term.
This blog is going to track me getting my life back on track since the pandemic changed things.
Things to work on: Control my PCOS to lose weight. Get my body back into shape Learn coding or something to work my mind.
I really didn’t update it because I found it so easy once I have my clothing and items pulled. I used less then 33 pieces and I just had to remember to plan when to do my laundry or I would be out of clothing. At the end, I really don’t need that much clothing but I’m also too fat to wear clothing I think is cute.
My own health still isn’t statable but the warmer weather was helping till the Santa Ana Winds kicked in today…baby steps. I’ve been going to mat pilates twice a week, and recently add in 2 dance classes per week. It’s sorta of pushing my ankle, so I might back it down to one dance class a week. I need to lose the 30+ pounds since my ankle surgery. So that’s my next goal for the next 90 days to drop 10-15 pounds.
It’s been a year and half since I decide to go back to school. Part of me is freaking out that I’m not learning fast enough but I feel inspired when I’m in class, so I know it’s the right step. I have anther year and half left. Not going to cry if I don’t finish it.
Life will always be complicated. Learn to be happy right now, otherwise you’ll run out of time.”
3:30 am a week ago, my friend was freaking about if she should break up with this guy she was with, via text because she was in bed with him. One of the reasons she didn’t want to let go, was because she didn’t want to die alone. I could relate to it. With all the deaths and now my mother’s illness, I can see the temptation of settling with somebody just so I wouldn’t be alone. I asked her if he makes her happy, She said Yes…eight years ago he did (They broke up 8 years ago and just recently reconnected), but not now. I told her, You have to decide if living like this for the rest of your life is worth it. Our time is limited. There are reasons why ex’s have an X in them.
When I saw the quote “Don’t wait for things to get better. Life will always be complicated. Learn to be happy right now, otherwise you’ll run out of time.” It reminded me that I keep on waiting for things to calm down to be happy to enjoy life, it’s not. Watching my mom’s illness take it’s toll on her and not being able to do anything for her, I realize I really wish I have a partner to turn to. My friends, I know are at a loss for what to tell me with all these deaths in a short time. I thought of my friend’s situation. I can see the temptation of settling so you have somebody to collapse into and just hold you.
When I was in the hospital room watching my mother, I realize that my fear of being alone might be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I’m not desperate to be miserable with the wrong person just so I wouldn’t be alone. However, I need to be open and be grounded to find a partner and I know it’s him when he refuses to give up on me, no matter what I toss at him (I have bad self defence mechanism that defaults automatically without me realizing it till way later. Has to be a guy that can see through that it’s nothing more than a smoke screen). I have an amazing life to live, and I don’t want to be surviving through it instead of enjoying it. My time is precious and I need to learn to value it more.
So I asked myself what would be my dream job. Want something I can grow my personal coding and related skills in, and it can be flexible. Something with coding front end in WordPress for a non/not for profit or social work/welfare related. I realize that working on Audrey Capital for Automattic, would be my dream job. Don’t know how to make that happen but it’s now my goal or a similar job to that.
the universe conspires to make it happen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Am really blessed for the timing of getting into Codetalk. My mother when into the hospital the same day I started the program and it kept me on track on working on my coding each day. Most of the stuff is review for me, but it’s helping me polish my code and jump start my JS. I have put my life on pause for my family over the 6 years, and coding is for me, as it’s helping me move forward with my life.
Starting to breathe life again, instead of just surviving it. My mother’s terminal illness, there is only so much I can do and I’m doing my best. Need to learn to make time to take care of myself, and deal with my own illnesses + ankle issues. Am lucky that I have a roof over my head, a car that works, and food in my belly. Really blessed that coding came back into my life when it did. It’s been my muse, my escape, my passion, and unexpected, it created an extended family that I’m blessed to have.
Took a sick day off of school today because I really was exhausted, and not feeling well since last week. I had everything packed and was about to go out the door, when I decide to listen to my body screaming at me. Felt really guilty on missing a day but today was the day they started with WordPress, so if I need to miss a day today was the day. I know it was a good call at the end but I’m still feeling really exhausted. Really hoping all the sacrifices I’m making to do this program is worth it at the end.
So happy I have the front end dev program to go to each day. I was asked by a friend recently what makes you happy? I answered Coding. It’s the only thing that is keeping me going with all the things going around me. At least I know, I have a place to live till Summer, after my program ends. Starting to go down on my meds but my asthma started acting up again, so I might be back on them again. At least now, the doctor has some what of an idea what is going on.
So happy I have the front end dev program each day to go to each day. I was asked by a friend recently what makes you happy? I answered Coding. It’s the only thing that is keeping me going with all the things going around me. At least I know, I have a place to live till Summer, after my program ends. Starting to go down on my meds but my asthma started acting up again, so I might be back on it.
There is apart of me that is freaking out that if this is all a mistake. If the past almost 3 years of WordPress, and learning to code again. I am pretty passionate about code and things related to web design and dev. This front end dev program is a gamble with how much I’m giving up to complete this program. Then somehow I need to make this work into a career in the next few years…well, at the end of this year realistically. Putting my personal life on hold since I have to take care of my mother, my own health, and focus on completing this front dev program. I’ve been pouring from an empty cup for a long time and that’s why my health is so bad.
Am very surprised on the people who are stepping up to check on me and I am disappoint in a few, but really not surprised. Not one word from a few people that I once consider closer friends. Actions speak louder then words and it’s something to keep in mind moving forward. I used to confront people in hopes it’s a misunderstanding, but life is too short to keep on pleasing people who have a history of not valuing you.
One thing this whole thing has taught me is to value your time. There are a lot of people who are going nowhere, and take you with them, if you don’t have a clear goal. They aren’t looking out for you, but how you fit into their own needs, while making it look like they have your best interest in mind. I’m choosing who I spend my time around very carefully because I don’t have much time to spare. Can’t keep on pouring from an empty cup and I’ve been doing that for years. That’s why my health is really bad and I’m paying for it now. Slowly refilling my cup and being selective on who I pour out to.
I realize that over the past 2 years since my ankle surgery and my father +uncle passing, I start getting really anxious to the point that I was borderline having a panic attack. Need to have whatever it was had to be done now, because I didn’t realize that I was panicking. I was told that grief and stress tends to manifest itself out in different ways with people. Didn’t realize till about 2 years later, the reasoning behind me getting impatient with life/myself/people, is really from me panicking. Which is me not dealing with my stress and grief because I didn’t know how to process it with so much on my plate. Now with my mother’s health failing, and my own major health issues, I’m trying to deal with it face on because partly, I just don’t have time or the energy to run from it anymore.